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Communication Strategies for the Entire Family
 
When someone in the family has a hearing loss, the entire family has a hearing problem. Communication is a two-way street, and both the listener with the hearing loss, and his or her communication partner, can play a role in reducing the problems that may arise during a conversation. Below are some communication strategies for both the listener and the communication partner that may significantly reduce conversational difficulties.
  1. Don't try to hide your hearing loss

    Listener: Acknowledge your hearing loss so that people will be more likely to look directly at you when talking, and speak clearly when addressing you. If your conversation partner knows that you have hearing difficulties, there may be fewer misunderstandings if you do not respond appropriately or if it appears that you are ignoring the talker.

    Communication Partner: If someone you are conversing with wears hearing aids and/or tells you that she has a hearing loss, do not shout or exaggerate your mouth movements. Just speak clearly, a little bit slower and a little bit louder. Pausing between phrases will help the listener have time to process what you are saying.

     

  2. Use hearing assistive technology

    Listener: If you own hearing aids, by all means wear them. If you don't, check with your Audiologist to see what's new in hearing assistive technology. Some amazing improvements have been made in hearing aids and it might be time for you to see what technology might be available to make your communication situations flow more easily.

    Communication Partner: If you see that the person you are conversing with is having difficulty communicating and they do not use hearing aids or other assistive technology encourage them to get help using modern hearing aid technology. If they are resistant to hearing technology or in denial consider using some of the strategies for handling a loved one who is in denial about their hearing difficulties.

     

    Polish your concentration skills

  3. Listener: Pay extra attention to the talker and try to hone your listening skills. This may be especially difficult for new hearing aid users, who may have spent several years "tuning out" during conversations, movies, lectures, or religious services because of difficulties hearing. Watch the talker's mouth instead of looking down. Try to concentrate on the topic of conversation, even if you are missing a few words or phrases.

    Communication Partner: Realize that it can be a strain for people with hearing difficulties to listen for long periods of time. Try to appreciate that folks who have to pay extra attention during conversations will often tire more easily than other listeners, and may want to go home earlier than you do from parties, family dinners, and other group events.

     

  4. Be prepared

    Listener: Anticipate difficult listening situations and plan ahead. If you're dining out with friends, for example, suggest going at a time that is not likely to be busy, recommend a restaurant that you know is relatively quiet, and familiarize yourself with the restaurant's menu, which can often be found online. Going to a bowling luncheon banquet? Try to arrive early so that you can pick a seat at the table furthest from the noisy kitchen, and choose to sit with your back to a brightly lit window so you can reduce glare. Be as prepared as you can to minimize listening difficulties.

    Communication Partner: When accompanying a friend or family member to an event that is likely to be a difficult listening situation, think of ways ahead of time to minimize communication problems. For example, if you are going to a lecture together, try to arrive early so that the two of you can get a good seat, up close to the podium. Engage beforehand in conversation about the lecture topic as a way of perhaps anticipating what the lecturer will say. If you are hosting a social event and know that someone who is attending has a hearing loss, strategize as to how you might reduce problem situations. Perhaps you could choose a relatively quiet restaurant and ask to have a private, carpeted room for your event. Ask that the table be set with plastic cutlery and paper dishes, which may significantly reduce the clatter of dishes and eating utensils. The efforts you take to plan for a "noise-free" event will probably actually benefit ALL of your guests.

     

  5. Use effective clarification strategies

    Listener: Avoid saying "Huh?" or "What did you say?" when you have heard at least part of what the speaker was saying. Instead, try saying something like "I know you said you are talking about the new house you are building, but I didn't catch where you said the house is located." This way, the talker does not have to repeat everything that was said.

    Communication Partner: When the listener has missed something you said, try repeating what you said one time, using clear (but not exaggerated) speech. If the person still does not understand, try rewording. For example, if the person did not understand you when you said, "It's not polite to boast", repeat it once, then reword your sentence to "It's not nice to brag."

     

  6. Try to determine the source of your difficulty

    Listener: Practice analyzing WHY you are having difficulties with a particular talker, then make specific requests, politely of course. Does she have a soft voice? Rather than saying, "Say again?" try asking her to "speak a little bit louder please". Does he speak too fast? Ask him to "please slow down a bit so my ears can keep up with what you are saying!" If she has turned away from you while talking, don't say, "I didn't hear you." Instead, use a specific request such as "Please face toward me when you speak." If she is talking with her hand over her mouth, say "Could you please put your hand down" instead of "I can't make out what you're saying."

    Communication partner: The best way to speak clearly for people with hearing loss is to face them, speak a little bit more slowly, a little bit more loudly, and with natural voice intonation, not a monotone. Try not to cover your mouth when you are talking, because that prevents your partner from taking advantage of lip cues.

     

  7. Verify what you think you heard

    Listener: If you have the slightest doubt that you understood a message correctly, confirm the details with the talker. It could save you some embarrassment or complications later.

    Communication partner: When giving directions, such as where and when to meet for a meeting, ask your partner who has a hearing loss if she is clear on the directions by saying something like, "Did that make sense?"

     

  8. Accentuate the positive

    Listener: Use positive words when you need help from your communication partner, such as "Could you please speak a bit louder?" instead of "You're going to have speak louder if you want me to understand you."

    Communication partner: When the listener with a hearing loss asks you to say something a little bit louder, take it as a compliment! It means she really wants to understand what you are talking about.

     

  9. Be assertive

    Listener: Politely let your communication partner know what you need to make the conversation flow more easily. At a group meeting, for example, if everyone is talking at once, suggest that only one person at a time talk. If you are on a conference call, suggest that each participant identify himself or herself when they say something, such as "This is Pat. I think we should have the fundraising event on a weekend." If you have frequenct meeting situations that cause you difficulty talk to your Audiologist about FM technology either in conjuction with hearing aids or as a standalone assistive device. FM technology can make group situations/meetings much easier for you to communicate and understand.

    Communication partner: If the person you are talking with indicates that they have a hearing loss and need you to speak a bit louder or a bit slower, try to accommodate their needs, but like Goldilocks and the porridge, it needs to be "just right"; i.e., not too slow, not too fast; not too loud, not too soft." The accommodations you make will enable the conversation to flow more easily for both of you.

     

  10. Listen with your eyes, not just your ears

    Listener: Watch the speaker's face. Although less than 50% of the English language is visible on the lips, you can still get a great deal of help by picking up visual cues on the speaker's face. Did the speaker say, "I need to go home"? Or was it "I need a phone"? Watch the person's face and you will probably figure it out because "home" and "phone" look different on the lips. The speaker's facial expressions may also help you understand what is being said.

    Communication partner: The listener may benefit tremendously by being able to watch your lips as you speak. Be sure to not cover your mouth with your hands, a restaurant menu, etc., so that the visible features of speech are available.

     

  11. Sometimes it's okay to break the rules

    Listener: Sure, your mother instructed you carefully in social rules, like "Never interrupt", "Don't buck the line", and "Wait patiently until it's your turn to speak." However, picture this scenario: you are at a busy airport, waiting at the gate, and after a loudspeaker announcement that you couldn't understand, half the people waiting with you start running to another gate. Despite what your mother taught you, don't feel that you must wait in the long line of people waiting to talk to the gate agent. Simply go to the head of the line and say "Excuse me, I don't mean to break into the line but I could not hear the announcement that was just made and wonder if you could repeat it for me so I don't miss my connection."

    Communication partner: It's important to understand that what may seem like rudeness on the part of your friend or family member is simply an effort to let you know as soon as possible that he is having communicating difficulty. For example, if he stops you in the middle of your description of your recent trip to the Rockies, just to ask you to speak a little slower, don't think of him as being impolite or not interested. Quite the opposite, he may be indicating that he wants to hear about your travel experiences but can understand your recount better when you use clearer speech. So take it as a compliment, not as poor social skills.

     

  12. Go easy on yourself

    Listener: Be patient, with yourself, with your family and friends, and with people you encounter throughout the day. Don't blame yourself or others for your difficulties. Just keep trying to use the tips provided here and stay positive, even when the going gets tough. Some days will be more difficult than others but a cheerful attitude can work wonders for getting through the tough times.

    Communication partner: Keep reminding yourself that although it may be difficult for you to converse with someone who has a hearing loss, it is even a greater challenge for that person, given the many difficulties encountered during a typical conversation. Be patient, use the communication strategies outlined here, and appreciate your own good hearing abilities.

 
Speechreading/Lipreading
Lipreading is a good tool for individuals with hearing loss to actively practice, it is also a very big challenge! The talker that you are trying to lipread is an important factor in the sucess of your lipreading, if the talker mumbles it's very hard to lipread...if the talker speaks clearly its much easier to lipread! The following tips are good information for talkers and listeners to be aware for easier communicaiton.
 
In recent years, researchers have found that:
 
• Simply asking a person to speak more clearly results in approximately a 20% increase in how much is understood by
listeners who are hearing impaired.
• In less than an hour, partners of people with a hearing loss can learn to improve their ability to be understood by 40%
or more, even in noisy backgrounds.
 
What are the characteristics of clear speech? It involves speaking slightly slower, with more precise pronunciation, a little more volume, and most importantly, frequent pauses between key phrases. It is these pauses that seem to provide considerable help to listeners because they give them the chance to process what has been said before the talker says more. For example, saying the following sentence, word by word, with no pauses in between, would be much more difficult than if the phrases were chunked into meaningful pieces:
    My husband's sister is coming to visit us in Florida in April.

Instead, pausing in the manner shown below might be very helpful:

    My husband's sister (pause) is coming to visit us (pause) in April.

Here is another example of normal speech:

I'm going to run in the Chicago Marathon this year so I can qualify for the Boston Marathon.

And now let's apply the clear speech method:

    I'm going to run (pause) in the Chicago Marathon (pause) this year (pause) so I can qualify (pause) for the Boston Marathon.

These pauses are not so long that they disrupt the natural flow of the conversation, but just long enough to give listeners a better chance of processing what is said. Pauses are especially helpful for listeners, who often feel like they have difficulty understanding everything the talker is saying. This is especially true in noisy situations. The pauses help the listener figure out what the talker is saying before more information is added. In the second example above, if the talker does not pause, the listener may be so busy trying to understand the words "Chicago" and "Marathon" that it will be difficult to tune in to the last part of the sentence.

How helpful can clear speech be to the listener who is hearing impaired? Recent research at Dalhousie University in Halifax, Nova Scotia showed that after minimal training, the husband of a woman with hearing loss was over 40% easier to understand in noise by listeners with a hearing loss when he made an effort to speak clearly.

How can you help your loved ones learn to speak more clearly? Simply ask them to do four things when communicating with you:

  • slow down a bit,
  • speak a tiny bit louder,
  • say things as clearly as possible without exaggerating their mouth movements,
  • pause at meaningful places so that your ears can catch up with their mouths.
You will probably find that most of your family and friends will be able and willing to produce clear speech because it not only helps you, it benefits them. They will probably be happy to not need to repeat things as much. But be forewarned: most people will probably speak clearly for about three sentences, maybe even four or five. After that, they may slip back into their typical speedy, mumbled, soft mode of talking. It may help you and your frequent communication partners to work out a reminder system. You could agree, for example, that when you gently tap your chin, it is a reminder that means, "Don't forget to speak clearly to me." If you have grandchildren, you might even have a secret code to use with them to remind them, "Slow down and speak clearly." Fun for them, and possibly a huge help for you!

Here's a little poem you may want to send to your closest family members and dearest friends. "If you would say it slowly and clear, I would probably understand you much better, my dear. If you speak a bit louder and take time to pause, I will be happy to shower you with applause. Thanks for using your best clear speech for me."

Let Audiology Dr. Brandy Vowell, your Tulsa Audiologist, assist with your hearing questions.